The silliness of worrying about what people think

03 Apr

If you are one of the tens of millions of people who constantly worry about what others think of you, consider the following impeccable logic:

If you believe that everyone around you really is watching and negatively judging your appearance and every move, you must have a very negative opinion of them.

In fact, you are doing the very thing you fear from them: judging them harshly based on limited information: their appearance and outward behaviour.

The reason you do this is that we only have access to our own thoughts and ways of thinking; we must guess everyone else’s, and we do it based on our own thoughts. If we tend to judge everyone harshly, we tend to assume that everyone does the same.

So, the key to being more confident around others is not to worry less or ignore people’s feelings: it is to be less judgmental of them.


Posted by on April 3, 2013 in Life, Musings


2 responses to “The silliness of worrying about what people think

  1. writingsofamrs

    April 3, 2013 at 9:53 pm

    “Don’t judge a man by his opinions, but what his opinions have made of him.”
    ― Georg Christoph Lichtenberg (one of my favorite judgement quotes)

    I enjoyed reading this very much!
    Continued success.


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